The Real Weight Issue

I was reading the post Thoughts Inspired by More to Love on There From Here where Chanelle posted a couple of videos related to plus size women and dating.

One of the men (from ironically “PracticalHappiness.com” of all things) said in his video Being Overweight and dating

“By being overweight you are severely restricted the number of people who will find you attractive”

“The way to become more attractive and increase your options when it comes to dating life is to lose weight.”

i love when people say things like that they think are the key to the holy grail.

he also talked about the confidence that people assume will come from losing weight

and i am huge on confidence but this business about weight being the only reason why overweight people can not find dates is silly because the truth is there are plenty of women who are not considered overweight who can’t find partners either.

i think it all starts with the most important relationship anyone has and its the one that they have with themselves

plus size women would be doing themselves a major favor if they stop living the aura of lack because when you feel lacking about yourself it manifests in every area of your life, especially relationships.

one of the girls on more to love said that she had a boyfriend who was ashamed of her and my first thoughts were:

do you hate yourself that much that you would give your most precious commodity to someone who is ashamed of you?

what makes you think that you deserve so little?

the myth about losing weight being the end all of it all to your dating issues is beyond ridiculous

if you are sitting around thinking “if i could just lose 40 pounds more people will find me attractive” you may be right to an extent but if you don’t start changing the way that you feel about yourself, no amount of weight loss will really make you a desirable partner