Sex and Weight
i made a small mention about this article “Weight Issues: How They Affect Your Sex Life” a week or so ago (before elle.com had it up on their website)
now its up and i wanted to give it a little more attention with a few observations.
– its interesting how most women will look over things about their partner that they don’t really find attractive while most men will not..its the what’s love got to do with it when what really matters is are you getting my juices going right NOW thing and women fall for that
– she wrote “We give ourselves to each other soul and body, after all. If I had some kind of soul sickness that was affecting our lives—alcoholism, uncontrollable rage—then I’d expect Alex to tell me he loves me but he’s unhappy. So why does it feel so different when it’s my body we’re talking about?”
weird how issues with weight carry so much weight that we have to compare it to alcoholism and other “diseases”
– i love that her “depression” over the way he felt about her body that added to her own angst about her body eventually turned into her showing her body and spirit some love and eventually not caring (all that much) what he thought in certain ways
but the flip side is that she stays with him although he can barely do the deed anymore and purportedly not because of her weight but because he is having other “issues”
jeez..what are you thoughts?
this brings up so many questions for me.
has this been an issue for you or other women you know?
would you stay in a relationship with someone who has issues with your weigh?
how does your weight make you feel about sex?
Good read! I would agree that someones weight can affect their sex life. But on the flip side, your weight should not stop you either. If you have a partner that is attracted to you no matter what your size is, you can still enjoy a healthy and satisfying sex life. I think sometimes its all about mind over matter with issues of weight and sex. I never felt sexy until I met my boyfriend, because he makes me feel that way by accepting & loving me no matter what size I am.
Thanks for the comment Chunky Curlz.
I too think that we can not let our weight stop us from enjoying one of the pleasures of life, sex.
And while its great to have someone who makes you feel sexy, we need to be cautious not to let that determine our sexiness because a person could leave or just start treating you differently and then where would you be?
I always find it so interesting that as a woman, we are condemned if we have 15 extra pounds. We would never even notice that on a man.
Thanks for commenting rawmazing.
that's a very true statement.
and sadly i think we women play into it making it even more of an "issue".
if we didn't allow others to make it an issue or really called them on it, things would most likely be different.
as it stands i don't see the double standards changing.